>>The Three Stages Of Playfulness, And Why Timing Matters

The Three Stages Of Playfulness, And Why Timing Matters

Laughter Yoga advocates childlike playfulness and that is wonderful, but what many don’t understand is that playfulness in the world of adults unfolds in at least three distinct stages. First you have to warm up to it, then you have to consolidate it, and then you can do what you want that is outside of the cultural context. If you miss that progression, your exercises will be invariably judged instead of experienced. It’s all about timing.

Here is a graphical representation of what I mean:

Progression of playfulness

At the start of a laughter session people’s inhibition levels are naturally high. This is a new activity and people they don’t know surround them. They must be eased into it. It is critical to first create the chemistry of play before you lead them into playful activities, otherwise judgments will settle in and the stronger these are the more they will downplay the value of the experience in the participants’ mind. Their mind will say it was “fun” but also, “Not for me. This is not how I want to define myself.”

This is unfortunate because laughter has so much to offer and we as human have so much to benefit from it.

What you can do to minimize this negative reaction includes:

  • Always start your laughter sessions by creating a strong context that explains and validates what is going to happen (e.g., “This is exercise, not comedy,” “Get ready for something different, “Laughter is a therapeutic ally in healing. We are going to simulate laughter now to stimulate its healing properties,” etc.)
  • Do not get too weird too fast! Wait at least ten minutes if you really want to bring on the bird laughter (behave and laugh like a bird) and other similar unconventional behaviors. They have their place and value but are counter-productive at the beginning of any session in general, and at any time in particular in groups where a majority of the participants are just discovering Laughter Yoga.
  • Get the book "505 Best of Laughter Exercises" or use a tool such as the Online Laughter Session Planner to prepare your sessions. There you will find hundreds of safe and sound exercises that can be used with anybody, anytime.

2018-11-16T08:17:26+00:00Laughter Blog|

About the Author:

Sebastian Gendry is a change-maker, coach and consultant with a passion for laughter. His life mission is help people live a happier, healthier and more connected life at a higher level of vibration. He played a major role in introducing Laughter Therapy in North America, Russia, and other countries and has been traveling every year to 3-6 continents since 2008 offering a variety of speaking and Laughter Wellness events, the method he created. He is a repeat TEDx speaker and has appeared in 100+ newspapers and magazines as well as major TV shows, including the Oprah Winfrey Show, 60 minutes and ABC Good Morning America. He encapsulates and shares the power of positive and playful energy and creativity.


  1. Paul O'Donnell February 29, 2016 at 9:44 pm - Reply

    Thanks, Sebastien. The Three Stages of Playfulness provides a well-defined structure to work from. Note: out of context, the phrase “don’t get too weird too fast” would sound quite hilarious.

  2. Rosanne Spinner March 1, 2016 at 3:58 am - Reply

    Yes, SO true…good timing is KEY if you want your laughing cohorts to return again. If timing goes well, you can actually see a newcomer’s “expression” change from contrived laughter to a place of “I belong here” laughter. If stage one is shortened, they likely won’t show up again. In my opinion, good timing should be the “First Commandment” of laughter wellness! Thank you, Sebastien, for all of your valuable insights!

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